If I can't stop the wind I CAN certainly direct it

This entire concept, which constitutes a hugely powerful shortcut for getting what you want,
for living on a day-to-day basis with considerably more pleasure and satisfaction, was brilliantly defined by a man named Epictetus, who himself lived a happy, productive, mutually-empowering life. He taught the world so long ago -- and it still holds perfectly true now -- that
"When anything external distresses us,
it is not the event which causes us pain, rather,
our response to it... ... and this we have the power to revoke at every given moment."

You're asked to stop and give that statement fair consideration; for more than just a few seconds.
We understand that you're bright enough to see this line of thinking.
Being bright enough to follow this line of thinking is dramatically encouraged by nothing more complicated than mulling over it, and deciding that each event that comes your way, good, bad, or indifferent, has a silver lining that MUST be grabbed by you.

Stop being average!!!
Stand out from the crowd by responding better than the crowd.
No matter what happens, you always have that final choice of all humans:
the choice of deciding whether to react, or respond.

Your knee-jerk reactions have rarely ever produced good. Your carefully considered responses have produced good things on hundreds and hundreds of separate occasions.
Why not make a habit of responding with "What's good about this?" and
"How can this be used to advantage?"